HACKER Q&A
📣 amichail

Would you allow an AI to go on most of your dates for you?


Dating is expensive, time-consuming, and often… exhausting. What if there were a way to test compatibility before even leaving your couch?

Here’s the idea:

* Your personal AI chatbot learns your personality from your social media writing.

* Instead of going on every date in real life, your chatbot "goes on dates" with other users’ chatbots.

* Chats that go well in these AI simulations are then escalated to actual humans, so you only meet people with real potential.

* Basically, AI-simulated conversations filter out the bad dates so you can focus on the good ones — saving time, money, and awkward conversations.

Would you try a service like this?


  👤 JohnFen Accepted Answer ✓
No, for two reasons.

First, I don't think there is any technology that could learn my tastes and personality to any degree of accuracy, and particularly not if the only training material was social media. Likewise, I don't think that I could tell compatibility by interacting with someone else's AI.

Second, dating is not just about testing compatibility. It's also fun in its own right, and offers practice in social interaction (amongst a host of other things). Even if AI were able to accurately determine compatibility, limiting your dating experience to just those people means you are losing out on exercising and developing important social skills and perhaps inhibiting personal growth. Without growth and experience, you'll never expand the range of who you are compatible with and your social experiences will remain fixed to a smaller world.

Bad dates, as unpleasant as they may be in the moment, bring their own value to you and offer opportunities for personal growth.


👤 leakycap
Absolutely not & would be concerned about the stability/goals of anyone who outsourced their dating life & human connection to a machine.

👤 bradac56
No, and thankfully that is not something LLM's can do.

👤 wryoak
Just the opposite. The good dates I’ve had are treasured memories, but the bad dates taught me about who I am. I wish I’d dated less selectively while I was in the dating pool, to achieve more self awareness.

👤 pnw_throwaway
This might be the most autistic thing I’ve read all week…

👤 eschneider
What is wrong with people?